Demystifying boundaries

We all know boundaries are important for well being, but more often than not we struggle with implementing them. 

Working with clients over the years, I have discovered that most people believe boundaries is something we do to keep people out and to protect ourselves against abuse.
I can agree boundaries automatically do that. 

But what if you thought about boundaries as something you do as part of your plan of knowing yourself at a deeper level and building more capacity in your nervous system?! 

As you start to get in touch with your own window of tolerance. You learn more what your system can take in. You start to notice in your own body what it’s too much for your system at any given moment. 

Once this new realisation start to embody, you will naturally want to implement boundaries. 

Boundaries is for you. It gives you a sense of wellbeing in your human experience. 

So instead of thinking of it as something to keep others out - which will unconsciously give rise to a body sensation of: 

“Let’s fight to survive in a world where I can’t trust anyone.” 

Invite boundaries as a way to give yourself more space in your system, so when you interact with others you can be fully present in a place of inner ease, instead of interacting from a place of overwhelm, which makes the experience unpleasant to you and to other/s.