Relationships & healing

As humans we have an innate desire to connect to others and feel safe while doing it. 

Why then so many of us find it hard to feel connected to others, to ask for help, creating stable relationships? 

People who have been through trauma and/or chronic stress situations, specially the ones who have had difficulties in childhood, often report these types of challenges. 

One reason for this is because their autonomic nervous system have become dysregulated due to adverse relational situations. For instance, a child who grew up around unstable adults learnt that intimacy and connection is unsafe, so as an adult they find it hard to connect with and receive help from friends and/or romantic partners. 

Healing from trauma includes ‘making’ these human connections safe again, through reestablishing nervous system regulation, working on boundaries and helping people getting in touch with a felt sense of safety. 

Pleasurable social interactions and feeling safe in relationships come naturally once your nervous system start to go back into a more balanced state.