Unprocessed traumas catch up with you

We tend to brush things off. From a very young age so many of us were told by our caregivers to: “Stop crying”, “Don’t  be a wimp”, “It was nothing, there is no reason to be upset”.

And these examples are the mild version of how we were taught to swallow everything down without processing nor honouring our emotions.

Trauma is not only related to big events such as car crash, sexual abuse or a relationship to a narcissistic partner.
“Micro” traumas ( death by a thousand cuts) also count. They accumulate. We close down, learning to live from unhealthy survival strategies, until eventually our nervous system shuts-down. Next minute we wonder why we feel depressed, anxious and disengaged from life.

And those who have had both: extreme traumas and micro ones suffer the most, many times not realising how trauma has affected them, as they learnt early on, like most of us, how not to be a “wimp”. So they carry on, until the cracks start showing.

For me the biggest crack was in my 30s when I had auto immune and chronic illness showing up, only then I started to realise how much unprocessed trauma I had in my system.

My body was screaming.
I had to stop and listen.

But it doesn’t have to be this way. You don’t have to wait for your body to scream at you. You can start to listen, to notice, to heal.

There are ways to process trauma before it catches up with you and stops you in your tracks.

It’s not through conventional talk therapy alone. We need to reach the brain stem and limbic system.

I invite you to stick around to learn more on how to heal on a deeper level. Feel free to check my highlights and Q&As on my Instagram stories.