Boundaries & healing

Taking time off from certain people and situations is an important part of the healing journey.

Boundaries are a necessary aspect of mature and healthy relationships.

It’s not uncommon to feel selfish when you feel the need to be away from certain people or situations.

There will be phases in your healing journey that you will feel more triggered and time away for reflection and integration is the most appropriate solution.

This doesn’t always mean that you will cut people out of your life, but when your self awareness increases you may start to feel that certain people and situations are not so safe anymore.

Your body and nervous system are highly sensitive tools, but because in the past you were on auto pilot you allowed all types of abuse and unnecessary situations into your life without realising it. None of it was your fault. You didn’t know. You were just repeating old patterns dictated by autonomic nervous system incomplete responses to self protect.

Taking time away temporarily and even permanently from certain people helps build up resilience in the nervous system.

Certain people and certain situations overwhelm your system and the break from them will give you the space you need to rebuild your self and your life in healthier ways.

After a while, you may even choose to rekindle some of the friendships you took a break from, but this time from a place of healthy autonomy and healthy boundaries.