During your trauma healing journey:

• You may have doubts about why you even entered this journey in the first place.

• At times, you may feel, that you are getting worse instead of better.

• Old triggers may resurface for a while.

• You might keep finding excuses to skip therapy sessions.

• As you deepen you may doubt the healing method of your choice. This happens often when you start to get deeper into certain traumas and as a protection mechanism you want to suddenly change methods and/or therapists, even though deep down you know the method and therapist are ok (but of course, it’s totally fine to change professionals or methods, if after awhile you realise it’s not a good match).

By falling into the pattern of often changing therapists or/and methods you keep on preventing yourself from going deeper and actually healing.

When the psyche goes through trauma it creates a split between Traumatised parts, Surviving parts and Healthy parts.

None of the scenarios mentioned above are done on purpose. These are survival strategies coming from your Surviving parts, protecting you from entering further trauma, as it perceives danger when you start getting in touch with your traumatised parts through therapeutic approaches.

Healing can be quite uncomfortable as you come to face with a few hard things, but it’s never as uncomfortable as our minds make it up to be.
This time around you are not being retraumatized. This time around you are being witnessed and supported by another safe human.

So when all the above doubts hit, remember that deciding to heal your traumas, asking for appropriate help, was a decision made by your Healthy part/s. Sticking through it during the rough patches is also a decision that needs to come from your Healthy part/s. Don’t let the Surviving parts take over. ☺️