Trauma resolution has to include your body

All the incomplete responses (fight/flight/freeze/shutdown) you have had in your entire life is registered and stored in your body, in the fascia, in your organs, in your muscles and cells.

The nervous system keeps tabs on it and starts to respond to the environment and to people in a more protective/reactive way because of these past experiences. This is natural and expected. It’s what your brain/body system do to keep you away from threat. 

That’s why bringing back your felt sense of safety and your natural reactions (reactions that are less tainted by negative past experiences) to stimuli has to happen somatically (through the body). 

Understanding things on a mental level is also important, of course, but it’s not the main factor here. 

Meaning-making is part of being human. You will connect the dots when needed, but connecting the dots without nervous system regulation is what keeps you stuck. 

It’s the old story of: “I know what the problems is. I’m a very aware person, but not sure why I can’t change my behaviour” 

Your body and your nervous system have always had the answers. You were just looking in the wrong places.