What healing is not

There is a big confusion around the word healing. That’s why I hardly use it. I prefer the word integration, as it’s more in line with what in reality happens when you embark on the deep type of “work” I offer.

There is a misconception, which is mostly unconscious, in people who are interested in this type of support.

Many think there is an end point, where you are forever healed and there won’t be any issues, any triggers and that everything will fall into place once and for all.

This is simply not true. Life is beautiful, but it can also be brutal. We face all types of challenges beyond our control; such as financial and career issues, illnesses, relationship problems, loss of loved ones etc...

🌿Healing does not mean you will never ever encounter problems.
Healing is the ability to face all sorts of difficulties and not chicken out.

🌿Healing is to respond to situations by being fully in your body, from a place of integrity, instead of running away, dissociating or finding the survival strategies you are most used to.

🌿Healing is to be able to express yourself clearly in relationships.

🌿Healing is to respond to situations in the present moment, instead of reacting from triggers that are “stuck” in the body from unresolved traumas from the past.

🌿Healing is having righteous anger in situations anger is warranted.

🌿Healing is having the capacity to be consistent in tasks that are important. Following through with what needs to be done to move you closer to what you would like to achieve.

🌿Healing is to be able to show up, even on days you don’t feel ok emotionally, still doing the jobs at hand and handing in that important project on time.

We must not forget we are humans. We fail sometimes. We make mistakes. We are not perfect. And we live in a world where systems are less than perfect.
We do our best with what we have, and when we know better, we do better.

When we heal, we are still learning. We will be learning until the day we die.
That’s why there isn’t an end game, as we will never be perfect. Accepting this fact is part of the healing itself.