The “bad” habits you want to change the most are, in fact, your survival strategies

At the time of your birth your nervous system is still immature. It needs time and a few years of good coregulation with primary caregivers to meet its full potential.

For many of us, who grew up in environments with lack of attunement from caregivers, our have systems learnt to survive by finding strategies to cope. We can also call these strategies “Defensive accommodations”.

Defensive accomodations emerge to support your exhausted parasympathetic nervous system (the part of your nervous system in charge of rest and digest) after years of having to find some sort of regulation. When you never had a good foundational regulation base to begin with.

Some of your most ingrained habits are in themselves defensive accommodations.

Defensive accomodations can be anything that helps your system to find some sort of regulation (most likely within your faux window of tolerance).

A few examples of Defensive accommodations:

🔸Overeating
🔸Undereating
🔸Over spending
🔸Nail biting
🔸Isolating yourself
🔸Always needing to be around people
🔸Shopping
🔸Drinking
🔸Scrolling on social media
🔸Over working etc…

The list is endless…

Once you reach a deeper layer of healing, defensive accommodations will resolve at their own accord. It’s a process that starts by addressing the lack of foundational regulation.

This is key.

And this is the reason all the other methods you have tried in the past haven’t worked.

If you would like to go deeper into your healing by addressing the underlying issues that are causing you to react in ways you don’t wish to, feel free to book a 1:1 somatic session.