Healing from trauma, on the natural level (physiological, emotional and psychological) doesn’t always mean what most people think it means.

If you have a history of developmental/complex trauma

“Healing” may look very different for you…

🌿 It can look like putting boundaries and procedures in place, so that you can feel safer and more confident to fulfill your daily commitments.

🌿 You can still feel negative emotions sometimes. And even more so in certain seasons of life. The difference is that you don’t fight these, you have more “separation” from them.

🌿 It can also encompass feeling overwhelmed at times, but having enough “space” within yourself to know what to do in these cases.

🌿 Healing is having more space to allow difficult emotions to show up, and not blaming them on others.

🌿 It’s about taking care of yourself and your needs instead of neglecting or isolating yourself.

🌿 It’s saying “no”, when “no” needs to be said, without feeling guilty or ashamed of it.

🌿 Healing can mean feeling the triggers arising, observing them, but at the same time having capacity in your system to continue with your day.

🌿 It also means having enough space between now and the past, aka living more in the present instead of in the past (state of trauma).

🌿 It is being able to acknowledge the reality that you are safe right now, even when it doesn’t necessarily feel this way when a memory or flashback is resurfacing.

🌿 You can be healing and still have some chronic health issues…

There isn’t a perfect stage in life where we are free from all problems, all symptoms and having no negative emotions.

Do your best, with self compassion. Look for the help you feel it’s most appropriate at each stage of your journey. And make sure you are careful not to fall for the fake healing promises you see around. These can confuse and delay your healing process.

What healing means to you at this stage of your journey?