The nervous system of someone who has gone through trauma, abuse or/and chronic stressful situations is hyper vigilant and in hyper arousal

In a journey of deep healing and self discovery we all get to a point where healthy boundaries need to be put in place.

Enough is enough with many types of relationships.

The nervous system of someone who has gone through trauma, abuse or/and chronic stressful situations is, more often than not, hyper vigilant and in hyper arousal.

This happens even in people who may appear calm and collected. The calmness is often a sign of disconnection (freeze/shutdown). Many don’t even notice their bodies are in this state, as we have been conditioned to be out of touch with our bodies - A survival strategy.

Saying NO when your nervous system is out of whack is very difficult, as you often feel overwhelmed, anxious, restless and irritable.

The simple thought of creating a boundary can elicit strong and uncomfortable sensations.

You resist.

You do anything for these feelings and sensations to go away. You say yes to the wrong people and situations in the hope it will help these uncomfortable feelings go away.

This pattern of escaping can compound the problems you already have. And the need for healthy boundaries won’t go away.

Saying NO is part of your journey in returning to a healthy ordered and balanced life.

Start on working on regulating your nervous system. Building more capacity to feel discomfort when making important decisions. With this work under your belt you will finally be able to establish healthy boundaries organically and with poise.