You can’t override your nervous system with mindset work

After trauma we lose coherence between mind, emotions, body and soul.

Remembering that trauma is not only related to wars, accidents and extreme events. Trauma is not in the event itself. It’s more about how a person experience the event within themselves that can or cannot result in stored trauma in the body.

When a healthy psyche goes through intense circumstances, repeatedly or as a single event, it splits into Traumatised and Surviving parts. The Healthy part of the psyche is always available, to different degrees, depending on how each person process and store the trauma/s.

After the split, your Surviving parts become the “guardian” of the psyche. Preventing your Healthy part from getting in touch with the painful memories and sensations of the trauma/s. This is a clever design and it is what enables you to carry on in life with a certain degree of “normality”.

The Surviving parts of your psyche are extremely crafty, often bossy, pushy and loves to be in control. This is the part that enjoys engaging in quick fixes and surface level work. Work that keeps you going using your survival strategies. You tap into this part of yourself, push through, using mental level methods and techniques. Only to crash and ending up feeling defeated once again.

That’s why many of us often only manage to sustain positive changes for awhile, ending up frustrated when willpower keeps on failing and we find ourselves back into old patterns.

To shift limiting beliefs and to implement new healthy habits, you first need to regulate your nervous system. Getting out of fight/flight/freeze/shutdown responses. Showing your body how to feel safe again.

Your body runs the show. You can’t override your nervous system with mindset work.